Posted in Embracing Life, Seek Peace and Pursue it

Woulda, Shoulda, Coulda

How many times have you beat yourself up with the woulda, shoulda, couldas of life?  I spent years second guessing decisions that I already made and lived.

“If I had just waited a few more years to buy a house, we wouldn’t still be upside down 6 years after the housing crash.” 

“If I had just shut my big fat mouth.  But no, I had to put my foot in my mouth”. 

Just the other day a friend of mine cancelled a get-together because of the storm.  Later on I told her that I was glad she had, because the drive home from work that day had been terrible.  She told me that she was relieved to hear that, because after she cancelled it, she had started second guessing herself.

How often do I do the very same thing! Logically, even if she had made a bad call (which she didn’t), who cares?  This was not a high stakes decision. Second guessing and regretting does nothing but make you crazy inside.

Even more, it robs you of the peace and joy that God wants you to have.  It prevents you from just sitting back and enjoying the “surprise” free evening with your family.  Don’t let Satan rob you of that joy!

This does not mean that we should never think back on past decisions.  There is a place for thoughtful reflection (heck, that’s why I blog).  But after you have properly thought back upon it, repented of any sin, gleamed any lessons for tomorrow – it is time to move on.

God forgives you when you repent.  Immediately.  You do not have to keep beating yourself for it, because He does not.

Turn your face away from regret.  Instead turn towards Him.  Walk forward knowing you are free!  Embrace His love.  Embrace His forgiveness.  Don’t let regret stop you from enjoying today.

Here is a good scripture to recount when you are tempted to replay the sins that have already been forgiven:

“The Lord is merciful and gracious, slow to anger and plenteous in mercy and loving-kindness.  He will not always chide or be contending, neither will He keep His anger forever or hold a grudge.  He has not dealt with us after our sins nor rewarded us according to our iniquities.  For as the heavens are high above the earth, so great are His mercy and loving-kindness toward those who reverently and worshipfully fear Him.  As far as the east is from the west, so far has He removed our transgressions from us.”

Psalm 103:8-12 Amplified

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“Seek peace and pursue it” Psalm 34:4b

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Embracing Life part 2 – Anywhere but Here

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