I admit it, I was answering work emails while in the delivery room. One day off and I was back at it again – on a Saturday – from the hospital – after I just had a cesarean. THERE IS A PROBLEM HOUSTON!
Two weeks postpartum I wrote a seething email to my boss. Why were they not emailing me? Why was I not getting regular updates on what was going on? I just KNEW it was because I was a woman, and they were trying to oust me out while I had a baby.
The rational part of me knew that they were being sensitive to my needs. My boss is a family man, and was just trying to respect my boundaries (which is a good thing!) Fortunately the rational part of me won, and I did not hit send!
It was not until three weeks postpartum before I stopped compulsively checking my email every 30 minutes (then it was more like every 2-3 hrs). But then it happened, all of a sudden, I started to RELAX. At 5 weeks postpartum, a co-worker asked me to help him with a project, and I politely declined. By three months, I was only checking my email during business hours, and once after-hours. Progress, little by little.
Why is balance so hard? I know in my head that I need balance if I am to maintain a PEACEFUL life. Yet, I so struggle with this, because the reality is, I like my job. I like being a Mom. I like being a wife. I WANT to do it all, but physically I cannot.
I NEED balance if I am to have PEACE
I refuse to accept anything less than a PEACEFUL life.
So I better figure this out – and quick!
And so I found myself pondering this extensively over maternity leave:
How do I balance my longings to be a great wife and mother (the things I love best, which are innately inside me by design), with my driving desires to succeed in my career (which is my gifting, passion and reality)?
#1 – Remembering: God. Family. Work. In that order.
#2 – Being fully where I am when I am there. Shut off the phone and computer when at home!
#3 – Arrive on time. LEAVE on time. Did you hear me? LEAVE on time.
#4 – Asking my husband to help more around the house (he said yes!) Being okay with the mess.
#5 – Limiting our social calendar. Only do what is peaceful.
#6 – Always be doing something to grow my career (reading, career support groups, etc.)
#7 – This one I am still working out. I know I am missing something!
How do you working Mommas find balance?