Posted in Marriage, Seek Peace and Pursue it

When being right is over-rated

My need to be “right” has caused a lot of arguments in my house.  Take the other day for instance.  I went to sit down to eat my breakfast and my Money & Kiplinger’s Magazines were both GONE from the table (horror of horrors)!  I had left them nicely stacked in the center of the table the day before and SOMEONE had moved them.

“Honey, did you move my magazines?” I nicely asked.

“No,” my husband replied.

“Hmmm, they are gone,” I answered.

“Maybe you took them somewhere else,” my husband said.

“I did not.  I remember leaving them nicely stacked on the table.  Maybe you put them in the recycle,” I responded.

“I did not,” my husband answered.

A quick look and I found them in the recycle.  I know I did not put them there.  The kids never pick-up anything without being told, so that leaves only one more option for the magazine recycler – my husband.

A year ago I would have said in a huff, “I found them in the recycle.  Why do you put my things in the recycle?  How would you like it if I put your Soccer Magazine in the recycle?  Don’t touch my magazines!”

Then the fight would have escalated from there.  I may have been right, but pointing this out would not be a “win” when the “prize” was a dumb fight with the one I love most.  Did you catch that?

This would not be a “win” when the “prize” was a dumb fight with the one I love most.

The truth is, I know my husband loves me, he was trying to do something nice  by cleaning up the table and it backfired.  He does not make a habit of putting my things in the recycle, he certainly would not intentionally do that, so what if he made a mistake?  And who knows maybe, just maybe, I accidently put them in the recycle (gasp).

So I said NOTHING.

Instead I quietly picked them up out of the recycle, sat down at the table and ate my breakfast in PEACE.  Being “right” is over-rated anyways.

“Seek Peace and Pursue It” Psalm 34:14b

“Better to live on a corner of the roof than share a house with a quarrelsome wife” Proverbs 21:9.

“A quarrelsome wife is like the dripping of a leaky roof in a rainstorm; restraining her is like restraining the wind or grasping oil with the hand.  As iron sharpens iron, so one person sharpens another” Proverbs 27:15-17.

And if you read this far and remember these scriptures from Mr. Mailland’s class, you are probably laughing!

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