My need to be “right” has caused a lot of arguments in my house. Take the other day for instance. I went to sit down to eat my breakfast and my Money & Kiplinger’s Magazines were both GONE from the table (horror of horrors)! I had left them nicely stacked in the center of the table the day before and SOMEONE had moved them.
“Honey, did you move my magazines?” I nicely asked.
“No,” my husband replied.
“Hmmm, they are gone,” I answered.
“Maybe you took them somewhere else,” my husband said.
“I did not. I remember leaving them nicely stacked on the table. Maybe you put them in the recycle,” I responded.
“I did not,” my husband answered.
A quick look and I found them in the recycle. I know I did not put them there. The kids never pick-up anything without being told, so that leaves only one more option for the magazine recycler – my husband.
A year ago I would have said in a huff, “I found them in the recycle. Why do you put my things in the recycle? How would you like it if I put your Soccer Magazine in the recycle? Don’t touch my magazines!”
Then the fight would have escalated from there. I may have been right, but pointing this out would not be a “win” when the “prize” was a dumb fight with the one I love most. Did you catch that?
This would not be a “win” when the “prize” was a dumb fight with the one I love most.
The truth is, I know my husband loves me, he was trying to do something nice by cleaning up the table and it backfired. He does not make a habit of putting my things in the recycle, he certainly would not intentionally do that, so what if he made a mistake? And who knows maybe, just maybe, I accidently put them in the recycle (gasp).
So I said NOTHING.
Instead I quietly picked them up out of the recycle, sat down at the table and ate my breakfast in PEACE. Being “right” is over-rated anyways.
“Seek Peace and Pursue It” Psalm 34:14b
“Better to live on a corner of the roof than share a house with a quarrelsome wife” Proverbs 21:9.
“A quarrelsome wife is like the dripping of a leaky roof in a rainstorm; restraining her is like restraining the wind or grasping oil with the hand. As iron sharpens iron, so one person sharpens another” Proverbs 27:15-17.
And if you read this far and remember these scriptures from Mr. Mailland’s class, you are probably laughing!